Should I tell him about my past even though I know it's a deal breaker?
Should I tell him about my past even though I know it's a deal
breaker? I have a big problem, I've been dating this guy "V" for a while
and I'm crazy about him, we're even moving together soon, however I
have a little secret. Before we started dating we were friends (we work
together) and I would tell him about my life and I told him that one
night I meet this other guy ("E") who wanted to date me. When I
mentioned this, he was really upset because he knew E and didn't really
liked him due to some issue that resulted in an argument between them.
Then he proceed to tell me that if I ever were to hook up with E, he
would lose respect for me and all of that. I discarded that and slept
with E anyways, it was only a one night stand and only that. Now this
guy "V" and I are together as I previously mentioned but I told him that
nothing ever happened between E and I. This makes me feel pretty bad
because a) I lied and b) I'm keeping a secret from him. Our relationship
is progressing and I'm afraid that at some point this truth is going to
come out and I afraid of his reaction to it, because V has mentioned to
me that had I ever hooked up with E he would've never talked to me
again (this was before we started dating). I feel like I have to come
clean to him, because he even has mentioned marriage and I just don't
want to keep any secret to him but I'm terrified at the fact that he
might leave me for this. I really have no clue what to do and I would
really appreciate any advice or previous experiences that might help me
with this situation.